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Harvesting Happiness

Happiness is truly a “now” thing. You should never put off being happy just because of some stupid reason. Happiness is a choice and it is something you can truly enjoy! Stay happy..

Single Strides

Recently during a drive I started to think about what happiness was. I was thinking this because my passenger (shout out Marielle) was happily asleep. She was asleep (and I was jealous) because we had a bad case of fomo and went out until 3am, napped, and then headed across the state at 6:30am for a noon bridal shower (congratulations, Hillary ❤ ).

A year ago I would have found any excuse to leave Miami versus doing something insane to stay for a few more hours. And that’s when it hit me. I was genuinely, purely, and honestly happy. But what is happiness, really?

It’s whipping out a selfie stick in the middle of a crowded bar (even though it looks ridiculous), and convincing everyone it’s the best thing since sliced bread.
It’s spending Sundays with puppies and mimosas.
It’s having the balls to dress up as a ridiculous jellyfish for Halloween.
It’s…

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Me On The Other Side


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You’re so happy when you’re with her
Her voice is like melody to your ear
I see your eyes twinkle
With excitement every time she talks
You laugh even to her most shallow jokes

You always speak highly about her
Your world only revolves around her
From you my world gets further
You without her equates to death
But seeing you with her I’m out of breath

And here I am on the other side
Standing on your world’s other side
Looking at you so happy with her
Not minding the drops of every tear
And the sound as my heart shatter

And here I am on the other side
I am alone and I want to hide
I’m trying to overcome this desperation
I want move on and accept your decision
I wish I can be happy with our separation

And another tear falls from my eye
The sole witness of my cry
The last drop before this feeling die
I should confront this ghost
And the reality that everything is lost

I wish you could see me too
See the love that I can give you
Why can you not see
Look at the shattered part of me
A part of me that’s falling apart
A part of me that wants your heart

Alone on this side of life
With my heart and mind on strife
I really don’t know what to think
So I will just express everything
Through paper and ink

PHOTO CREDITS: http://www.unionchapel.org.uk/pages/abandonment.html

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Five Ways to Master the Art of Letting Go


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I’ve been given the chance to feel love. I’ve had so much experiences, mostly hurtful, about this damn thing called LOVE. I am not perfect and definitely not a totally good person but I deserve to be happy, right? Everyone deserves to be happy. We all do. But why do we experience all these pains and heartbreak? Why do we have to cry ourselves to sleep? Why do we need to drown ourselves in music just to numb our feelings, tune out all these stupid thoughts and questions in our brain, zone out to that place of emotionlessness.

Music is my best friend and my dark room is my refuge. I really love being in the dark because no one sees me. No one sees the tears. No one knows my pain. No one hears my sob. In darkness there is solitude. But in darkness there is also loneliness. But music is there. And music keeps me company. These are the times when one song and only one song keeps on playing, on repeat. These are the times when I just want to drown myself with the music. Let the song speak for me coz I have no strength to voice out, to describe all the pains and hurts that are inside me. If only I am strong enough to leave these all behind. If only I have the strength to drop these baggages and focus on what’s ahead of me. And I know that in one way or another, we all have these stupid moments in our lives. Those moments of failed relationships and broken heart.

They say “letting go” is the best thing to do. Ideally that is the super “bestest” thing to do. But honestly? That is the most difficult thing to do. And I am no expert in this art of letting go. But let me give you some point on how to move on and get back on track because seriously, it’s your life and there’s no one but you who will decide what to do with it.

1. Realize that PAIN is all in the mind

So you are in pain. You are betrayed and cheated. He/She left you hanging in the air, like you were holding in a single-stringed balloon and suddenly POP! – the balloon burst and you came crashing to the ground. That totally hurts. But you see, there is no physical pain, the pain that you felt is all in the mind. Admit it, but its your ego that was trashed. You have thoughts like “I have done my best in this relationship” or “why is my best not enough for him” or the worst “what have done wrong?” Seriously? You are in pain right now because you keep on thinking that it was your fault. My dear, THAT PAIN is only in your mind. And the more you dwell on those thoughts about what could have gone wrong or was your best not enough, the more you pierce yourself with that knife you have in your hand. So, clear that mind and start seeing the brighter side of that break up!

2. Show some respect for yourself

You are in pain? YES. You know that pain is only in the mind? YES. But you don’t want to eat. You don’t want to get out of your room. You don’t even want to take a bath! Now that is too much. You’re already in too much emotional pain, why would you still subject yourself in more physical pain like ulcer, hang over, headache, and stink! What you have in this very difficult time of your life is yourself and YOU ought to give that self some of your respect and love. Remember, no one will love you if you don’t love yourself. But you will insist that you want to be alone, you want to disappear, that you want to die. Crap! That’s bull s#*t!! You will never be able to get your boyfriend/girlfriend back if you die. Simple! I know we need to cry over something that we lost, but doing that for more than a month is not healthy. So open that bedroom window, get a warm bath, put on your best clothes, and start living a life that you deserve.

3. Remember that Life is not just pure happiness

There is no need to expound on this. All I have to say is that, you should accept that you will never be able to experience total happiness while you are still alive. Pain, hurt, loss, being cheated, and betrayal are all part of living. So you were betrayed? Be thankful coz you are still alive. Period!

4. Learn from your past and grow

They say, good experiences make us happy while bad experiences make us strong. So you had a bad relationship. You’ve been through a very mind-blowing break up. Are you going to sulk? Are yo going to drown yourself in beer and wine? Will you let yourself stink and rot and die in your room? Think again. Everything happens for a reason. Yes, you are allowed to drink and mourn over the loss. You’ve been so down and lost but remember: THIS IS NOT THE END! As long as you are alive and you are breathing, life goes on. You may be hurt now but don’t let this stop you from living. There is so much to learn, so many places to explore, and so many fishes in the sea! So you are hurt. Fine! But you need to let it go for you to grow and become stronger and fiercer and bolder.

5. Reflect and pray

Sometimes, we feel so hurt that we question ourselves what have we done wrong. We ask ourselves why all these happen or what have we done in the past to deserve such misery. But sometimes, we couldn’t find any answer. Because honestly, there is no answer to those questions. Things happen because they ought to happen. It’s neither because you’ve done something nor this is your Karma. It is not because you have not given your best that is why your current relationship fail. We need to reflect over the past events in our lives not because we need to know where have we gone wrong but because we need to determine where God is leading us. Sometimes, relationships fail because God has better plans in our lives. Reflect on His words and let His embrace cover you in this dark moment of your life. The first four pointers will be useless if God won’t exist in our life. Pray for healing and let His love overflow in your heart.

So how can we master the art of letting go? It is by praying and believing that God’s mercy, love and grace will surely help us through the pain. Letting go will not be a piece of cake, it will never be easy. But with God, nothing is impossible. Let go and let God!

PHOTO CREDIT: http://bellawonder.com/2011/09/22/letting-go/

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Dare to Live


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You know that emptiness inside you that you cannot define? Like there’s a hole in your chest and you’ve exhausted all options to fill that in but still the gap remains? Have you ever experienced that longing, that feeling like there is something missing in your life but you just don’t know what or who is it? That is what she is feeling right now. She doesn’t want that feeling to linger inside her. That same feeling that makes her emotional and vulnerable and helpless.

She always assume a confident and independent aura which people believed that she is. They see her as someone who is happy, contented, confident, and successful. What they don’t see is the insecure and naive and tiny little girl inside her who just want to crawl and disappear. She is so tired of pretending she’s strong. She just wanted to shout to the whole world, “Hey! I am not as strong and confident and happy as you see and think I am. I have a crack too. And I am at the point of almost breaking and falling apart.” She just wanted to be that simple, happy, and carefree girl that she always want to be. Someone who does not live according to others’ expectations. Someone who just don’t care. But she know she can’t. The society has this stigma on judging people’s lives based on their achievements and/or failures.

She always wanted to be an Artist or a Writer. And nature is her place of refuge. She loves watching sunsets by the beach. She always wanted to be in the beach and watched the waves crashed against the shore or lay on the grass gazing at the stars at night. She wanted to paint pictures of nature’s landscapes or take pictures of the majestic creations of God. Or write something about all those nature tripping that she would love to take. But you see, she is not that kind of girl. She is the over-achiever, success-driven, independent “career woman” that she is. And she felt so frustrated because she knows that she has so little chance of doing what she really love. And right now, she just wanted to disappear, to leave everything behind especially the identity that she currently has and exist as someone else. She wants to do that thing they have in movies where the heroine would just disappear, totally out of radar and eventually, will be found in the wilds of Africa or in the middle of the Amazon, living with the natives, not mindful of how difficult and different their way of living, and just having the best time of her life. She wished she could do that – to totally disappear and take a different life. But she knew she can’t. All these are just wishful thinking. That is why she felt so frustratingly sad.

And there’s that emptiness again. She sometimes thought disappearing is the best and only escape. She just want to perish – to evaporate. Maybe she wanted an escape. Maybe she just doesn’t want to face the idea that no matter how much she wanted to convince herself that she is happy, she knew deep inside that she is not. Maybe she doesn’t want to confront these issues that she has kept within herself. Maybe she is too tired to pretend and act in this stage play of her life. She wanted to live, not act as if she is having a life. For her, life is supposed to be happy and enjoyable. But her life isn’t. Her life is full of pretensions. And honestly, it is full of crap. She wanted to throw it away and start a new life. A life based on what she really wanted to do.

That day, like all those other days, the desire to escape is swelling deep inside her. But for now, she cannot disappear. She can’t and she doesn’t know how to. So she decide to take that frustrating lap, walking and just walking without any particular destination. Her mind is fully occupied by lots of problems and issues. And at that moment, all she needed was to escape, even for just a minute. Walking clears her mind. It set her brain in its proper function, making her able to think and act as she was expected to be. She was walking in auto-pilot, crossing streets and turning to different corners and alleys. She knows the place too well to be lost. She has done this a thousand times that she never worries where her feet would take her.

But that particular day was no regular and usual day. She was crossing the street unmindful of the oncoming vehicles. And it’s already too late when she realized that a speeding red Cadillac was about to hit her. And as the speeding car came crashing towards her, all she thought was her life – pictures of her so-called “successful” life came flashing before her eyes in slow-mo. She thought maybe she has thrown a coin in the wrong wishing well. Or maybe she was thinking of another thing when she was making that wish. Yes, she wanted to disappear. But dying is not the method that she would want it to be. She wanted to stop the hands of time, freeze everything, and have the chance for a rewind – a complete rewind of her life. But she can’t. All she ever thought was that she should have decide to be happy with what she has while making efforts of attaining what she really wanted. The should have’s, could have’s and all the what if’s came flashing before her.

And as the car finally hit her, she embraced the fate that seems so fatal. She accepted the reality that she can never run away from her life. What she could have done is embrace it with a thankful heart which she didn’t and now, she couldn’t. She realized that the mere fact that she is breathing moments ago is enough reason to be happy. Milliseconds became so important to her but time is slipping away, her life is slipping away. In fact, it is slipping away faster than sh has imagined. And before darkness totally devour her existence, she searched her heart. Does the emptiness still exist? Does she feel hallow and broken? But she could feel no more. Because the very reason why she felt pain, sorrow, longing, emptiness, and sadness has slipped away from her possession. The life she once had which made her feel all the negative feelings that she kept bottled up inside her is gone. Does she still feel the emptiness? No. She felt no emptiness, no sadness, no pain, no life. She felt nothing at all.

Life is what makes her feel all the pains and sufferings. It is the reason why she exists in the first place. It is the sole reason why she had those deep longings in her heart. But she chose to entertain the pain instead of the joys of living. She whine about being tired to just exist when she can choose not to exist but live. Life is all about choices. It’s all about making wise decisions. Having a life is just a matter of choosing to make the most out of her existence – out of our existence. And she failed to see that.

Sometimes, we only appreciate something when they no longer exist. Sometimes, we only “miss the sun when it starts to snow” as the song goes. People! Our being discontented of the things that we have often backfires. We should learn the art of appreciating what we currently have. Appreciate life but do not settle. Yes, we have dreams, we have plans, we have visions and goals. And sometimes, life takes us to some point where we feel we are too far from achieving these goals and dreams that we have and we became frustrated and unappreciative. Our frustrations and discontentment often take its toll on us and we became bitter, so bitter that we no longer live the life that was given to us. We became so bitter and full of negativities without realizing that we are not living, we are merely existing, only getting by the day, each and every day. We should realize that no matter where life takes us, we should go on living and enjoying the journey and eventually we will get THERE – to that place where all our dreams come true. As they say, we can never predict the direction of the wind, but we can adjust our sails so that we will reach our destination. Dare to live, don’t just exist!

PHOTO CREDITS: http://www.marcandangel.com/2010/05/31/30-ways-to-live-a-life-of-excellence/

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Facebook, Twitter and Instagram Are Not Your Significant Other

Shared by our awesome Featured Writer, One Gentleman. “ When we experience issues within our relationships, the first reaction should be a discussion with your partner, not a tweet or Facebook status update. Social media has become a platform for couples, friends and all in between, to provide a personal look into their lives. There are several […]

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6 Facebook Statuses That Need To Stop Right Now

Oh well!! I am sure some of us are really screen addict. It’s like every minute of every hour of our waking day, we constantly face our screens. And I would say that mostly, we are hooked in social media, Facebook in particular. Who’s not in Facebook these days anyway? But honestly, some status posts in FB are a bunch of crap. And here’s an amazing blog that totally hit it bull’s eye! You got to read this to lessen those crappy posts you write on your status update.. I am surely guilty of some of these so I better start cleaning up my mess.. 😉 enjoy reading!

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1. The Cliff Hanger

“Ugh”, “FML”, “Days like these make me so depressed”

You obviously want people to ask what’s going on. About 5% of your Facebook friends will die from curiosity and cave in to ask what’s up, but the other 95% of us know you’re being intentionally vague for attention. It’s annoying. Stop.

2. The Shocker

“Going to the ER”, “Totaled my car”

If you’re going to the hospital or you have just been in an accident of some sort, you probably shouldn’t be making a status about it. This is not an appropriate way to tell your friends and family about something bad. If you’re well enough to post on fb, you can make a phone call.

3. The Private Message

“Omg I know you have your phone on you, bitches need to text back damn”, “Smh why do people have to talk about me behind…

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