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How Long to Wait before Having Sex?

Admit it, this is so rampant. Women getting pregnant at a very early age pr young adults getting married because of having a baby. I still believe in having sex until after marriage. This is more of a religious view that I still hold up to now. But I know that with all the influence that media has brought to the new generation, sex until marriage is so old-fashioned and taboo. But then again, I still stand in what I believed in and I greatly respect anyone who would disagree with me. Because in the end, we make our own lives. Therefore, we should be responsible with our own actions and decision.

One Gentleman's Perspective

DUN-DUN-DUUUUN! The topic of sex is as old as humanity. I mean, you would not be reading this post, if body exploration sessions did not occur between your parents. Refusing to acknowledge a topic is rarely ever a good idea. It only fuels the interest of people, causing them to inquire further.

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I Love Him But…

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How can we forget someone? This question always haunts us, especially if those persons that we want to forget have greatly made an impact in our lives. But how can we really forget someone? The answer is simple: Don’t think about them! Easier said than done, you might tell me. To be honest, it’s not difficult to forget. What’s hard is to accept the reality that there are things that happened that never in our wild imaginations did we expect to happen. Sometimes, what we thought as a perfect dream instantly turn into a nightmare and we cannot find any reasons why these happen. We are left asking ourselves “why these happen?” or “Have we done something wrong?”

But, how can you really forget? How can you eliminate someone who has been in your heart and mind all these years? Simple. Don’t think about him/her! It is so basic, isn’t it? You can do a lot of things rather than think of them. You can go out with your friends, focus on your life, make yourself successful. Watch happy and funny movies. Travel to places you want to go. Explore new things and discover great beginnings. Stop listening to sad music, those songs that would remind you of him. Avoid doing things that you used to do together or go to places that you both hang out. Remember: We tend to forget what is truly in our mind when we think of something else. Think of things that you want to do. Think of those person that you have right now, those that give happiness and joy to your life, those people that want to see that smile in your face again. They may not totally ease the pain that you have in your heart right now, but you are still blessed because you still have someone who will be with you in this painful time of your life.

You know what? Sometimes, it’s us that make the situation more complicated. You’re wondering why you cannot forget him. You’re wondering why you cannot move on. Don’t think that you CAN’T. Don’t think that you cannot do it. Because you need to believe in yourself that you CAN. You can stand up again. You can bring that smile back on your face again. If you just willed it, it will happen. No one can help you but yourself. Even though there are a lot of people around you who are willing to help you, if you are not willing to help yourself nothing will happen. Everything that they’ve done, all the efforts that they have exerted to help you is futile.

If you always think that something is so hard to do, you will really find it difficult to do. If you keep on thinking that you will forget him, the more that you will not forget about him. You know why? Because you’re only saying it but you’re not putting it into action. Well, let’s admit that it is really hard to forget, to move on, to let go. But bare in mind that there are countless of ways to be happy, billion of reasons to live a life full of joy and gladness. If you think about all these things rather than him, you will eventually accept that he is gone.

Don’t lose hope. These pain will all come to pass. You will soon have that beautiful smile in your face. All the hurts that you feel right now will ease. You will be able to sleep well again and have happy dreams again. You will be able to create a new vision, a future with someone who will understand, care and love you. Someone who will make you happy not just with his words but will show it through his actions. Because, somewhere somehow, there is that someone who is rightfully made for you. He’s just a bit late in coming into your life.

Let me tell this to you again and again: “Be Happy!” because you deserve to be happy. You are made to be happy. Remember that there is also someone who felt bad and sad because you are miserable. He is hurting because you are in pain. You may not notice him now because your eyes are blurry because of all the tears, but time will come that you will get to know him. He will come to wipe away all of your tears and ease all your pain.

Don’t lose hope.

Take time to wait for him.

Be patient while you wait.

And remember: There is no other cure for a suffering heart but TIME.

Stay in Love! Stay in God’s Love!

Dawn 🙂

Author’s Note:

I’ve also written a post “Haunted By A Beautiful Nightmare” based on a Youtube Video “Mga Kwento ni Roger sa Pagong”. This is another translation of another video from him. For more of his video/voice over, visit Youtube.com

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Your Happy Ending Is On Its Way

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My friends usually call me “hopeless romantic”. I would say that I am, in a way. I still believe in the old fashioned, the giving of flowers, chocolates, and stuffed toys; sending of hand-written love letters, and just kissing under the starry skies. I still watch movies like The Notebook (all-time favorite), Serendipity, PS I Love You, Message in a Bottle, A Walk To Remember, and the likes. I still fall in love with the characters in my books, the knight in shining armor in my fairytales. But I am a modern day Hopeless Romantic. I have accepted the fact that technology has greatly influenced the lives of the people in the 21st Century and it is but necessary to adapt to that change in order to survive. But deep inside me, I felt the pang of jealousy when I would imagine how my father courted my mother. How people of the 90’s value and give so much respect on the “boyfriend-girlfriend” relationship.

The youth of today has greatly evolved that for them everything is always instant. But there is never a single thing in this modern world that’s instant. Instant noodles take 3 minutes to prepare, instant coffee takes five. Fast foods are still not “fast”. There is still that waiting time, a process of waiting, the preparation process. Because no matter how fast-paced we want our lives to be, we still cannot deny the fact that there are still things that are more enjoyable when we let it set and give it some time to process. Slow-cooked foods are still the best! Riding on a bicycle is still enjoyable. Writing your thoughts in ink and paper is still satisfying. You see, in this technology-driven lifestyle that we grow to love, there are still things that shouldn’t be instant. There are still things that need time to bloom, to ‘incubate’, to process, to evolve. And that holds true to our Happy Ending. Happy endings need not be rushed. We want it to be the best ending EVER, then we must learn that Happy Endings are way too different from “Instant” Endings.

I am a hopeless romantic. And this is a message to all those hopeless romantics out there that still believe in a Happy Ending.

Believe

Believe that your Happy Ending is still a work-in-process. God is the best writer, and He writes the best Love Story. Believe that your Romeo is out there and is still undergoing tune ups and machine overhaul to perfectly fit the princess that you are or vise versa. Maybe your princess is still doing course trainings on fine dining and royal etiquette. So never give up that faith that the Father in Heave has been slow-cooking your super yummy love story.

Wait with Patience

Yes, cliché as it may sound, but “Patience is a virtue.” And although waiting is a waste for an Industrial Engineer, waiting for the Best Ending Ever is never a waste. And there is no greater reward than to be able to have that Happy Ending without attachments. Yes again. I just said attachment. Because there are some of us who are not patient enough to wait and decided to look for it instead. And there you go, you just end up getting pregnant or being an instant father. You see, God doesn’t want you to mess up with His kitchen coz you might put a wrong ingredient and the entire recipe goes down the drain. God wants you to sit back and relax while He is still preparing that awesome love story.

Never Settle

In relation to our being impatient, we sometimes decide to grab whoever comes our way. Opppsss!!! Don’t do that. Never settle for something that’s second best. Just because he or she is what you currently have doesn’t mean that they are the ones that God wants you to have. Remember: “No messing up in God’s kitchen.”You don’t settle for water when you can have the finest wine. And when I say finest, it has been through the aging process for a long time. So if you feel like you will not have your Happy Ending and you are in the verge of giving up, think again. You’ve waited this long, you’ve come this far. Will you just settle for second best? Come on!! You’re better than that. Never settle. PERIOD.

Busy Yourself

Sometimes, waiting becomes an agony when we keep on thinking about what we’re waiting for. Waiting becomes a longing and sometimes the feeling become so intense. The intensity of that longing sometimes cloud our better judgment and we end up settling on the second best. So busy yourself. Don’t think too much about your Happy Ending and why it has not started to unfold. That would only make you cranky and you will just find yourself making stupid decisions you might regret in the end. So busy yourself on things that would make you better. Follow your dreams, do things that would make you happy and fulfilled. BUT never lose hope and sight of that Happy Ending. Make it your inspiration to make yourself better and fit for them. God has prepared that person to be the best. It is but fitting that you should make yourself worthy for them too. You want a good man, you should be a better woman. You want a career woman, you should at least have a decent job. You want a trustworthy partner? Ask yourself if you are worth trusting for. So while you wait, focus on perfecting yourself.

Pray

God holds our future in His hand. He is the perfecter of all our plans. He is the Ultimate Giver and He will surely provide our needs. And when I say needs, that involves the type of Happy Ending that we need. Sometimes, we are so focused on having a family, building a home, and finding our soulmate that we lose sight of what God wants for us. Maybe God’s idea of a Happy Ending is not is parallel with what’s in our mind. So pray. Ask for His guidance and revelation. Maybe that deepest longing is not something romantic but a deeper love for service and stewardship. Pray for His wisdom, that He will revel His plans of your Happy Ending.

Sometimes, we are so focused on what we want that we fail to see what God wants in our lives. Oftentimes, we crave for what is ideal of this world and we fail to see that we are not made for this world. We are made to worship God and seeing Him happy is the Best Ending that we could ever long for. Maybe God would be happy when we are able to build a family of our own because that is your role in the bigger picture that He is painting. But also, your Happy Ending could be in the priesthood or religious life because He sees you fit in that role. I am not discouraging you about finding your soulmate. All I am saying is that sometimes we are so focused on our plans and desires that we fail to incorporate God’s plans in our lives. Maybe it’s time that we stop looking for our Happy Endings and start looking up to God instead. And I believe, that when we seek His face and feel His embrace, we will forever be happy.

Stay in love. Stay in God’s Love!

Dawn 🙂

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Haunted By A Beautiful Nightmare


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“Paasa” – A Filipino word which is defined as “A person who leads someone on (intentionally or not). Appealing as if they are genuinely interested romantically when they are not. – Better Than English

There are so many “paasa” out there, waiting to get a chance to trick us or play with our heart. Maybe you have had a first-hand experience or you have a friend who was once a victim of “paasa”. Do not be disheartened. Someday they will be okay. Someday you will be okay. It may not be today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week or next month, but I tell you, YOU WILL BE OKAY soon.

I come across a video in Youtube, one of the series of Mga Kwento ni Roger sa Pagong #3 Sinanay Mo Kasi. And in the hope of reaching more of the general populace especially the English-speaking audience, I translated the video. Although this is not a word-for-word translation but I hope you’ll get the message. (For those Filipinos reading this, you can click on the title of the video to redirect you to Youtube.)

“Good morning! Don’t forget to have your breakfast. Looking forward to talk to you when you wake up” – these are the usual messages that would greet me upon waking up. Your sweet nothings never fail to make me smile and brighten my day. It’s so great to wake up everyday even though I know that it might be a very busy and tiresome day. And every night, your messages of “Good night. Sweet dreams. Sleep tight” would always lull me to sleep. It’s so nice to know that whether I am awake or asleep, there is someone who treats me as if I am the most important person in his life.

There were no dull moments when I am with you. Every time I am with you, my world stops and I only see you. You never fail to make me laugh. Whether the topic is just nonsense or some matters that are so important, both of us are ready to listen and understand. Whether it’s just everyday drama or funny moments, I knew that you are always there to listen to my rants and stupid stories. You became my reason to smile during those dark and gloomy times of my life. And you often tell me that I inspire you to see life in its brighter side. I make you smile, you would usually tell me. Your smile is enough to brighten my day. You were my shoulder to cry on, my pillow during my lonely nights. I feel so blessed because I know that I have you in my life.

Talking to you everyday feels like eternity. I started to believe that I will never be alone again. As certain as the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, I feel to sure in myself that you will be the one that I want to grow old with. My world may seem so dark and uncertainty looms ahead, but walking with you and knowing that you will be there for me in every step of the way has given me strength. I often ask myself what have I done to deserve someone like you in my life. There are other girls out there, girls that are far better than I am, yet you chose to be with me and to be in my life. I started to believe that you are not like those other guys out there. That you are different. You are one of a kind. You may not always say the words “I love you” but you never fail to let me feel that you love me.

I started to believe in forever. I didn’t prepare myself with the reality that all these are temporary, that all these will come to pass. All of a sudden, you started to change. It seems like everything stops. Little did I know that as the seasons are changing, as the leaves start to fall, as the wind gets colder, and as the snowflakes started to appear, so are you. I couldn’t think of any reason why you start to withdraw and to distance yourself from me. Like a balloon that escaped from my grasp, you are slowly moving away and waiting to pop or get lost. You started to change. And I started asking myself why. Why is this happening? Why are you leaving me without giving me reasons? Why are you hurting me? Why did you come into why life just to ruin it? Why? Please, I need answers. Please answer me.

My once-so-awesome day that starts with sweet messages from you is now plain and normal, and I just can’t wait for it to end. Gone were the days of restful sleep and instead long sleepless nights haunt me. My mind and my heart are always in a duel against each other, asking why? So many questions of why’s – all of them unanswered. I am so used of you being always there. I am used of always talking to you. You taught me to believe that you are an inspiration in this dark and poorly lit side of my life. You are my reason to go on with my life, to fight and be strong amidst all adversities. You are the reason for long laughs, those moments when my stomach hurts so much and I am teary-eyed for laughing so hard. You give me the reason to trust again.

And all of a sudden you just disappear. Out of the blue, you are gone. And now, you’ve given me a reason to get watery eyes. You’ve given me the reason to be afraid again, to never trust and give my heart to anyone else. You taught me to build walls, to surround my heart with strong and unbreakable barrier so that no one like you will be able to penetrate it again. You shouldn’t have come into my life when you know that you’re not planning to stay. You shouldn’t have taught me to live a life so dependent of you. You have just given me a reason to believe that you are no better than them. In fact, you are so much like them.

Anyway, all this time I was just hoping that maybe you are different from the rest of the guys I met. It’s just so sad that you let me feel that I was wrong. But don’t worry, I will bounce back. And this time I will let you see that I am strong. I will be happy again, but you won’t be the reason of it. I know it will be a long journey but I will get there sometime soon.”

It is so sad to know that these type of people exist. I couldn’t find any reasons to justify such actions because for me, love is not about hurting others. Yes, we can never separate pain from love because whether we like it or not pain, hurt, and being broken is all part of falling. But why is it that there are others out there who would pretend to catch us when we fall? And when we finally take that fall, they are nowhere to be found. Love is not a game. Love is a beautiful gift that should be shared between two people. Love should never be used just to have a bit of fun and merry-making.

Stay in love. Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

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7 Friends You’ll Meet Along Life’s Road

The “Facebook” Friends

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You may be laughing right now. But to be honest, technology has been playing a major role in relationships nowadays. And sad to say, the social media has been frequented by fake or false friends. I am not generalizing but I am challenging you, look into your friend’s list and tell me who among your 1000+ FB friends are your real friends and not just any other random name who sent a friend request. Don’t get me wrong here. I know there are friendships that blossom in one single friend request but you cannot deny the fact that you also have people in your friend’s list that you barely know or you don’t know at all, except for the informations they supply on their timelines.

The Acquaintances

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These are the people we get to know in school, in our yoga class, or in the gym. We know little about them. You met them at some point in your life but they never made a mark in your heart. Although they are of higher level than your FB friends, but sadly you only knew them by name. These are the people you say “Hello! How are you?” and just move on. They never stay long in your life to make that “imprints” in your heart.

The Friend in Distress

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These are people that you know and got along pretty well in your life’s journey. And as you continue to travel through life, they slowly and little-by-little disappear in the picture. Yes, they made a mark in your life but they chose not to walk with you through life. Until years later, out of the blue, they decided to make a come back into your life only for you to realize that they just needed your help. Being the good friend that you are, you decided to help them and again, they evaporate in your life. Funny that when you look back, you realized that they don’t stay long enough to make a difference in your life. They only stay while they need you. Sad but true, but there are really people who took advantage of other people’s goodness. They’re like leeches, sticking around while they’re feeding at you and would completely disappear once they’re full. (Sorry for the rant! I just can’t help it.)

The Sanguine

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They are the life of the party. The noisy, happy-go-lucky, carefree friends that you have. The make your life full of fun and laughters. They are the source of joy and happiness in your journey. They fill your travelogue with jokes and funny stories. They are the reason for painful stomachs and teary-eyed experiences – not because they hurt you or make you cry. But because they make you laugh so hard your stomach hurts and you wanted to cry. They are life’s precious treats that you don’t want to miss. They are a bunch of positive and vibrant people who never fail to make you see the brighter side of almost everything. In every bad situation, they always have a positive disposition.

The Faithful Friend

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Along the way, you meet this type of person, this kind of friend. They are the silent type. They just sit quietly at the nook of your life and you know that they are always there. They will never leave you. You know in your heart that no matter how long you haven’t seen them or how many years you haven’t heard about them, you are confident that they still remain. And in those times that you are in need? They will gladly offer you a hand to help you, a shoulder for you to cry on, a hug when you feel so alone, and they will sit beside you – just sit, no talks. They don’t bitch you of your failures and they silently rejoice over your success. They don’t rant about your stupidity and the wrong decisions you made in life. But they will always, and I mean always be their to laugh at you or cry with you in those successful and not-so-successful events of your life

The Confidante

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I call her my “Living-Talking Journal.” The confidante is that friend who knows all about your secrets. They see you succeed and they know how you made it in full details. They’re like your journal – a living witness of all your failures and success. But they’s not just witnesses, sometimes they too are accomplice. They are accessories to the crime, a side-kick, a body, a partner in crime. In other words, they’ve seen you fall. They know you have fallen. They saw it coming. They know in full details about the fall. And they feel the pain. Because they are with you, a trusted confidante, who knows all about your musings. From stupid rants to deep thoughts, from petty problems to world-shaking adversities, from getting your first job to reaching your dream job, these confidantes know just about everything, which often than not, they too feel what you feel. But what’s better with these “living-talking” journals is that they have a say in your life. They argue with you. They have a voice. And sometimes, their voices are your much needed wake up call, to knock you off from some stupid dreaming. And pull you back into reality.

The Total-Package-All-In-One Friend

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He/She is a rare find. She is your Facebook friend, your now-you-see-now-you-don’t friend, your Friend in distress, the Sanguine, the Faithful friend, the confidante. She is all-in-one. She is among you trusted friends in Facebook. And she never hesitates to call you in the middle of the night to ask for help because she know that she will also make that phone call on the wee hours of the night when you are in need. She has this moments of “nowhere-to-be-found” because she busies herself with her own life and achievements but she never leave that special place in your life. You sometimes heard nothing about her in months or she might not see you for years but the bond still remain. And out of nowhere, she will call you or message you just to tell you about a cute guy she saw in the bus. She’s funny, crazy, and silly. But she can also be a great keeper of all your secrets. She is a mother because she scold you like your mom. She is a father and a brother because she will always stand up for you and protect you. She is a sister who will giggle and chitchat about cute guys and fancy stuffs. She is a lover who will hug you and hold your hands forever. She is a critique telling you all the words that you need to hear, plain and hurtful word, no sugar-coat and icing. And she is everything in between.

“A best friend is better than any boyfriend. A best friend may not kiss you or hold you through the night, but they will hold your hand through tough times. They cause tears only through giggles, and they will never judge you on how you look with your makeup off. They may not give you flowers on Valentine’s Day but they will give you chocolate once a month. And the best thing about them is that no matter how many times you fight and no matter how loud you may yell, you always know in the end they’re still going to love you, and that nothing you could ever say, or scream, could change that.”
– Anna Floyd

“When we consider the blessing of God – the gifts that add beauty and joy to our lives, that enable us to keep going through stretches of boredom and even suffering – friendship is very near the top.”
– Donald W. McCullough, Mastering Personal Growth