Posted in Food for Thoughts

4 Things You Should Stop Doing in 2016

sys_media_117951

Few days from now, we will be bidding good bye to 2015. A new year is about to unfold, a new beginning, a clean slate, a new chance, a renewed hope to be better, to do greater, to aim higher. And as the new year begins, everyone is thinking about new goals and new year’s resolution. But let me tell you a secret to having an awesome year. It is not in the things that you’ll start doing but in the things that you SHOULD stop doing.

The greatest temptation in life is to be passive and not to take action, to treat life in a very laid back and easy-going fashion. Do you have dream hidden in the corners of your heart? Like starting a project, writing a book, starting a blog, getting that job that you are so passionate about, or taking that dream vacation your were putting off for years. You want to make a difference in your life, right? We all do.

But if you’re not careful, you can be be throwing months or even years of your life waiting for the things that may never happen. It’s easy to sit on the sidelines, watching the world pass you by as your dream wither on the vine. It’s easy to just let go and not to take control, to let the current and the wind take you. But sometimes, and more often than not, you end up in a wrong destination, way far beyond the place that you want to be.

So before you put more items in your New Year’s Resolution list and focus on how to stick on doing them, you should also consider to stop waiting for these four things that are holding your dreams hostage.

1. Stop waiting for the right time.

Have you ever had that moment in your life when you are in the edge of doing something but right at that very moment a voice at the back of your head just whisper it’s not the right time yet? Me, too. A lot of times. Moments when you just stare at you’re computer not knowing if it is the right time to send that business proposal or to book that flight to Santorini. Well, the thing is, life doesn’t work that way. You can never put life on hold just because you’re waiting for the right time because right now your just too preoccupied with other things, less important things.

There won’t probably be a time when you don’t feel busy, no one demands your attention, you have no responsibilities at work or church, and that life isn’t somehow messy.

Life demands to be lived at the moment no matter how busy or messy it may be. Stop putting life on hold just because you are too occupied with other things.  If you want that dream to come alive in front of you, NOW is the perfect time to start doing it.

2. Stop waiting for everyone’s approval.

Maybe your dreams are a little crazy or “unrealistic.” Maybe it’s quite impossible to achieve for some. You are afraid to move forward because you don’t think a certain person (or a group of people) will approve it. You are burying your dreams in your drawer because you’re afraid that your friends might make fun of you or that your family will not support you.

Let me ask you this: Why is that person’s approval so important to you? Why are you so afraid to disappoint them?

I’m not saying that we should be reckless or not consider how our actions may affect others. I’m not saying that we should never listen to our family and friends. But sometimes, and far too often, we fail to do things that could bless others because it’s different than what the society expects. We are so caught up with doing things that pleases others that we often end up neglecting our innermost dreams and aspirations.

Here’s the thing: You will never have everyone’s approval. There will always be haters and bashers, negative comments and discouragements. But that’s okay because your Critics are not the one’s your trying to please anyway. And if at some point, your family and friends may be one of your critics, take it as a challenge. Prove to them that what you’re doing right now is something that they can be proud of someday.

3. Stop waiting until you can perfectly do it.

As an old saying goes, “Try and try until you succeed”and “Practice makes perfect.” So stop waiting until you can perfectly do it. There is nothing perfect in this world. Life is meant to be explored and failures and messed ups are expected along the way.

It might be setting up a blog, publishing a book on Kindle, or navigating the technical aspects of setting up a podcast, everything is a continuous learning. Life is a huge academy of success and failure, or falling down and getting up, of bruises and bandages and of scars and healed wounds. So never wait until you can do it perfectly. Keep trying even if you get all frustrated for failing every time. Same goes with love. They say “love until it hurts no more.” So if you’re dreaming for that happy ending, never close your door for love just because no one can love you perfectly as you want it to be. Breaking news: No one’s perfect!

But never let frustration have the upper hand. “The greatest quality that will make you successful in everything is the attitude that no matter what the obstacles are, you will figure out a way to get it done.”

4. Stop waiting until you feel brave.

Fear is something that we cannot eliminate. It is one of the reasons why we strive to live, it makes us feel alive. But sometimes, fear is so isolating that it makes us feel alone. And what’s worse, sometimes we’re so afraid to admit it to others. We keep it to ourselves and we end up with the feeling that we are fighting our demons all by ourselves.

I believe each of us have our own set of fears. I am afraid of blood and of being wounded. I dreaded the sight of blood from wounds. Sometimes, just the thought of it makes my palms sweat, makes my feet cold, and I feel like I would pass out. I also fear talking in front of a huge crowd, may it be giving a report in class or delivering a speech. I am scared of first meetings too, like the first day of school or going into a party with a crowd I barely knew. I could go on and on with a list of all my fears but I won’t do that. But what I’m trying to say is having fears is normal and will never make you less of a human being. Embrace your fears because that’s who you are and use them to your own advantage.

Anything that you put out there for the world to see, you are exposing yourself to ridicules, negative criticisms, and bad feedbacks. But remember that every time you go out of your safety net and take that risks of getting out of your comfort zone, you allow yourself the chance to combat your fears and to grow and become more courageous.

The truth of the matter isn’t about your feeling of being afraid. All of us at some point fear about some things. It is about mustering the courage to continue to pursue your dreams and aspirations with the belief that you can.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― Winston S. Churchill

So instead of worrying about how things might turn out or if you will mess things up, use that time to pursue that dream you’ve been putting on hold. Worrying about the future will never take you any further. Do something today that will take you one step closer to the realization of your dreams.

Because you know what?

  • There will never be a perfect time.
  • There will always be someone who will not approve of your ideas.
  • You will rarely do anything perfectly.
  • Your fears will always try to get in the way.

As I am writing this, I feel like this is more like me talking to my inner self than the blogger who wants to share. This is for the person in me who is always waiting for the right time, who always seeks other people’s approval, who screams and wants perfection in a totally unique and imperfect world, and who cowers every time circumstances push her outside of her comfort zone.

I am still working on my dreams, too.  And as the year draws to an end, let us look forward to this year that is about to come with renewed hope and vision, greater courage, and more success.

Happy New Year us you all!

Stay in love! Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

———

This post originally appeared in a slightly different version in kentsanders.net

PHOTO CREDITS: adrex.com

 

 

Posted in Food for Thoughts

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge

I’ve been a little lazy these past few days with my blogging. I feel like the “vacay atmosphere” has caught up with me this holiday season that my creative juices have been a little bit empty and dry. I’ve been all books and movies for the past few days and –  no blogging. Luckily, I’ve come across The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge and I think this would be something great to write about. I wasn’t able to find the 30 challenges in thesinglewoman.net website though. But I got lucky once again to find it in Girl’s Got Shine blogpost. Which, by the way, I suggest you should check out along with The Single Woman which are both equally inspiring sites.

I also believe this is so timely. A 30-day blogging challenge to start our 2016. I won’t be doing this until the 1st of January though but I do encourage you to join me with this challenge. This has been posted some three years ago but I thought there’s no harm in doing the challenge even though how late it might be.

So without any more fuss, here’s the 30-day blogging challenge for all women out there. For those single ones, for us to truly appreciate this state in our lives and for those who are not so single, for you to ponder and write about!

So here it goes:

  1. Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”
  2. Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.
  3. Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.
  4. Your biggest fear as a single person.
  5. The biggest misconception you think people have about single life
  6. Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”
  7. Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point
  8. Five things that are most important to you in a future mate
  9. Your favorite “weird/funny single behavior” – Anything you do that is uniquely YOU and that living alone allows you to do (For example, I sometimes dance around the house with my cat to Frank Sinatra)
  10. Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you
  11. Your worst/funniest/most embarrassing date
  12. Your proudest accomplishment
  13. Describe how you met the last person you texted and talk about your friendship/relationship
  14. Describe the last moment you felt really, truly blissful
  15. Narrate a conversation between you and someone in your life who you never had closure with (a friend, an ex, a family member, etc.) What would you say? What would they say? What outcome would you hope for?
  16. If you planted a time capsule right now of your life to be opened in 20 years, what would be in it?
  17. What are your spiritual beliefs and how do they impact your relationships/relationship status?
  18. If you could have a conversation with yourself in high school, what would you say?
  19. What is something about you that people would be surprised to learn?
  20. Describe your most difficult breakup and what you learned from it.
  21. How would you pitch a reality show about yourself? To what network?
  22. What fictional character in a movie, tv show, or book do you identify with and why?
  23. Talk about a moment when you got annoyed with a married friend, a person in a relationship, or a person with kids (Be honest! No judgment!).
  24. If you could relive ONE day of your life, what would it be? And would you change anything?
  25. Describe a moment when you “paid it forward.” What happened and how did it feel?
  26. Name a song that makes you cry every time you hear it and why
  27. Talk about something that you really, really, really love about yourself.
  28. Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc.
  29. Who is your closest or most special friend that you’ve never met and what do they mean to you? How did you cross paths? Talk about how you “met” them: Facebook, Twitter, an online support group, etc.
  30. Write a letter to your future mate saying whatever you want to say.

As I go through the 30 blog topics, I really find it thought provoking and a little bit intimidating. But nevertheless, I am up for the challenge. I hope you are too.

Happy Blogging!

Stay in love! Stay in God’s love! ❤

Sarah Dawn 🙂

 

Posted in Epistles of the Heart

To the man who’s yet to come (and hopefully who will stay for the rest of my life)

August 11, 2015

6:30pm

Hi there,

My life has been a mess lately. I became impatient and weary in waiting for you so I decided to give it a try with someone else hoping that you might be him. And now, I end up broken and hurt. I should have waited. But sometimes, the waiting becomes the most challenging. I have no idea when we will be able to meet, if I will be able to know you, or if I you even exist. I’ve always been a believer of fairy tales and happy endings. I am a great fan of Princess Aurora (Sleeping Beauty) for her story is a tale of true patience. But I guess, the part where she slept for a thousand years makes the “waiting” less painful and more bearable. I am also a fan of Belle (Beauty and the Beast). Her’s is a story of real and authentic love, a love that was never skin-deep. But I guess, she was never given a choice not to be with Beast in the first place that’s why she was able to make the most of what she has. You see, these two characters exemplify patience, acceptance, real and authentic love, and contentment. But I am neither Belle nor Aurora. And even though my name is Princess Aurora when you translate it, I am no royalty. Sometimes, I would even think that I am just a plain Jane. I am never a head turner. I am more of the boyish Jane than the girly Jane. And I am definitely not princess when you take into account how this world defines a “princess”.

I never thought that I would be able to love him (the one that broke my heart). I promised that I would never be in a relationship with someone unless I would know that he is “the one”. But I guess these past few days I am more concerned about finding you than waiting for you. I am more into accepting someone who will come along. I am swallowed by my fear of being alone and of growing old alone. I got scared that you might never find me. I get jealous when I see my friends post pictures of how happy they are with their husband/wife or with their boyfriend/girlfriend. I get envious about how they were able to find “The One” while here I am broken and hurt and is impatiently waiting for you. When will you ever come into my life? Or will you ever be coming into this messy life of mine? 

After the entire trial-and-error scheme, I’ve come to realize that I’d rather wait for you than be broken again. I couldn’t wait to meet you. I couldn’t wait to finally get to know you. I couldn’t wait to make memories with you. I couldn’t wait to know your mannerisms and quirks. I can’t wait to hold your hand or hear you laugh. I can’t wait to be part of your life. I hope you are looking forward in meeting me too.

But for now, I think I need to learn to be more patient and to be contented with what is happening in my life. I think I need to be more prepared for our meeting. I think I need to be more responsible with my actions, to be more honest with myself to what I really want. I need to become better for you, to be a great person that you can be proud of. I need to learn to be happy being alone so that I can be happy being with you. I just hope you won’t take long. But one thing is for sure, I’ll wait for you even if it takes forever.

Sincerly,

Ms. Patiently Waiting

 

Stay in love! Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

Posted in Rhythms and Rhymes

This Life I Owe

praising-god

This life I have I owe it to God
This life I have was paid with His Son’s blood
This life I have is never mine
This life I have is Thine.

So take my life, I offer to Thee
Take this, Lord, take all of me
So that my heart will rest in Thee
And let this heart be set free.

Lord take my life, my heart, my soul
Set this heart free and make it whole
Heal its crack, fill its gap
And may this heart overflow with Thy love.

 

Stay in Love! Stay in God’s love.

Dawn 🙂

Photo Credit: Journey With God

Posted in Food for Thoughts

Purity and The World

64954

In a world where freedom and liberty is the outcry of almost everybody, people tend to lose one’s dignity and love for one’s self because of foolish and selfish decisions. People are so liberated that casual relationships and “hook ups” are so common even among young people. People are so into this world that the sanctity of sex and marriage seem to be lost and forgotten. You could just even count with your fingers the number of your friends who are not doing “it”. Young adults tend to support living with their partners before marriage just so they will know if they are compatible or not. Divorce rates are rising, abortion became a norm, and broken families are so rampant and common. Dating has also changed with the rise of technology. Online dating has been a thing for more than a decade now and recently, with the advent of smartphones and touchscreen devices, finding a date has been as easy as swiping left or right. People change. Technology and social media dominate and pollute or rather corrupt peoples morals and dignity.

Gone were the days of the old-fashioned where men go to the women’s house to ask them if they can go on a date. Dating is never heard of these days. These days, it’s more of hanging out than dating. Love letters were obsolete because instant messages and e-cards are more convenient. I don’t even think people even pay attention to birthdates and remember by heart special dates because smartphones can take care of that. Smartphones will do all the remembering and the reminding.

In a world of fast-paced lives and modern technology, relationships became more casual. You meet, you hang out, you get to know each other, and you became a thing (often than not with casual sex or “making out” or “sleeping around” in between). Then you broke up. Winning the heart of the ladies was so easy that breaking it is never ever given second-thought. You broke up and you move on to the next relationship. Casual relationship hinders that divine purpose of matrimony. It has blocked the view of young adult to the ultimate reason for love. It has been the cause of high divorce rates, abortion, and broken families. As long as young adults adhere to the norms of this world and engage in casual relationship instead of pursuing the calling of marriage, there will always be unborn babies, unwanted pregnancies, and broken families.

As I look back on how the old-fashioned have done it before, I couldn’t help myself not to envy them. They have lived simpler, less complicated lives, away from modern technology. But they were still able to do it right. I am envious at how they value communication because of how slow communication was before, where snail-mails took weeks to receive. I am envious at how much they treat the ladies with respect and not as objects to be admired. I am envious at how the women value their virginity and purity and how much they strived to protect it. I am envious at how people of yesterday’s generation date for the sole reason of getting married and not just for casual and short-lived happiness. I am envious at how yesterday’s generation honor and value the sanctity of sex and marriage.

Today’s generation is corrupt and lustful. As what Elisabeth Elliot has said in her book Passion & Purity, “ If it feels good and you don’t do it, you’re paranoid. If it doesn’t feel good and you do it, you’re a masochist.” This mindset has corrupted today’s generation. They engage in sex just for the mere reason that it feels good. Society’s gage for being a man has change from being respectful, responsible, honorable, and trustworthy to having a record of how many women they were able to sleep with. Today’s generation uses one’s freedom and the idea of liberty to do what they believe feels good, no matter what the consequences may be. I gazed upon today’s generation with pity and with pain. They have been blinded by the alluring and deceiving greatness of this world. They were made to believe to “enjoy life to the fullest” because “you only live once”. Yes, there is nothing wrong with the idea of living our lives to the fullest because that is how God wants us to be. He wants us to be happy. But today’s generation choose to downgrade their level of living life to the fullest. They have chosen to live a life according to the standards of this world. I am saddened by the reality that the youth nowadays are so corrupted and evil. I am greatly grieved at how and where this present generation is going. And above all, I am greatly grieved because I am part of this era of corrupted and lustful generation.

At times, I tend to withdraw from the hustle and bustle of life and retreat to the silence of my room. And on those times, I sometimes find myself asking the question why am I still single? Until one day, something hit me. I will be forever restless. I will always have this longing, this deep desire inside my heart to be with someone. But I will never settle for anything lesser than what God wants me to have. Today’s generation is so lustful and corrupted that the chance for me to find a man that upholds and believes in the principle that I am living becomes lesser everyday. But I will never settle for what is available. I’ve already done that. I’ve already paid the price for being impatient. This time, I will remain single until God will lead the right man, the one He wants me to have, into my life.

Stay in love! Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

Photo Credit: Authentic Intimacy