Love is a game of tic-tac-toe,
constantly waiting for the next X or O.
– Lang Leav
Love is a game of tic-tac-toe,
constantly waiting for the next X or O.
– Lang Leav
I am working on my dreams. People might say I am so behind at my age but I believe achieving my dreams has no deadline, right? As long as I am able, I still have the chance to get it. There are times that I feel so low especially when I feel so left out. I browse through my social media accounts and all I see are photos of my friends getting married, traveling or having dinner at fine restaurants. And when I look at myself, I have nothing to boast about – I am single, jobless, and struggling to achieve a dream that seem so impossible to others.
People often ask me why I want it. I sometimes asked myself that too. I don’t have an exact answer. I cannot give a concrete response. Why do I really want to go back to Canada? I really don’t know. All I know is that God placed that desire in my heart and with that, I am holding onto the possibility of getting there in His perfect time. I am hoping that one day, I will be able to step on snowy streets, dance under the falling sakura flowers, play with golden maple leaves, and see the perfect sunset of Patricia Bay again. It may be surreal for some, impossible for many. But with a God who provides, why would I doubt?
So if my dream of going to a place that’s 10,000 kilometers away from where I am now, why would you doubt about yours? Those dreams, if you keep working on it, will eventually come true. If your dream is getting a great job, beings successful, or buying that BMW or that beach house, or finding true love, never lose hope. As long as you’re working towards it, all your efforts are not in vain. God sees your heart. He hears all those unuttered prayers and silent sighs. He feels the heaviness and your weariness. But take heart. Be courageous. This is not just your battle. This is HIS. God is fighting alongside with you. So be still. Relax. Your dream is on it’s way to reality. If today your chasing your dream, believe that one day you’ll be catching it.
Keep the faith!
Stay in love! Stay in God’s love!
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To you who feels like giving up on that one dream: don’t. You have to hold on a little bit more. Give yourself and your dream more time to materialize. You have to live to that day when you will be able to say to yourself, “I made it.” You have to believe that this long stretch of waiting and getting impatient is part of the process.
You have to cling to the hope that God has the best plans for you (Jer 29:11) and all He think about is for your greater good. Call into mind all the things you’ve done, all the sacrifices you’ve made, all the efforts you have exerted to achieve your dream. You have to stay focused. Do not falter. Keep on pushing and striving to achieve your goals.
To you who feels weary for waiting too long and wants to settle for what is available: don’t. The waiting process is really tiring. Every night, as you lay down in bed, a lot of questions may have crossed your mind, debates about the right and wrong decisions you made, about creating backup plans and fallback tactics, about regretting bad choices and not following great advice from others.
I know there is chaos inside you. I know there’s that voice telling you to stop pursuing your dream and settle for what or where you’re currently in. Don’t! Every wrong decision, every bad choice, every painful mistake is all part of the plan. The journey is painful. Going uphill is really tiring. But remember: all the obstacles and difficulties are just part of the journey, something that we should embrace and enjoy because that what makes reaching “up there” all worth it.
Every mistake will make you wiser. And after all, when you have weathered everything, success will be such a sweet treat. However, never focus on the destination, they say. Enjoy every turn, every climb, every stumbling block. They will mold you and make better and well-seasoned.
To you who feels like giving up and is thinking about quitting: don’t. Giving up and quitting are not for victors. You are born to do more, to be bigger. You are born to achieve. God has created you to be a conqueror. He wants you to increase your territories, to expand your horizons. God promised you a bright future. He has placed that desire in your heart, a HOPE. And He will see you through.
Quitting is for the weak of heart. It is for those who lack determination and willpower. Quitting is equivalent to failing. And if you want to succeed, quitting is not an option. It is NEVER an option.
At this point, God’s answer might not be a yes, but He knows the perfect timing. And a yes from Him would be worth the wait. I believe people quit praying because they thought God’ silence is a no. But sometimes, we have to hold on a little bit longer because after all, it might be a wait, a wait for His perfect timing.
The waiting process is painful because waiting is frustrating. You are subjected to pain because, only in extreme circumstances, can true beauty emerge. Only in painful events will your heart be created pure and true, pureness of love for God and being true in trust in His plans.
“There is no oil without squeezing the olives
No wine without pressing the grapes
No fragrance without crushing the flowers
And no real joy without sorrow.”
Life is pressing you to bring out the best in you. All the problems and trials are crushing you so that you will exude that beautiful aroma of success. Pains and sufferings are squeezing you so that you will produce something, develop something, build your character to be able to take on bigger and more difficult challenges ahead of you.
Your dream of a bright future is also God’s dream for you. Your dream of a better tomorrow is just around the corner. Whatever your dream, whether how small or big that may be, hold on to it. Keep it in your heart.
You may feel like you are too far from getting there, you’re never too close to achieving it but never lose hope. Whatever pain and suffering you are going through right now, feel it, just feel it. It will make you strong. No matter how deep you fall, bounce back; and bounce back higher and stronger.
There is this thing they call blessings-in-disguise. Where wrong turns, failures, tears, disappointments are not who they seem they are but are turning points and little nudges from heaven. These pains are God’s way of leading us to something better, something bigger, something more wonderful, something that we most deserve, the fulfillment of all our hearts desires.
In every failure, never be afraid to try again. You have countless chances and there are unlimited possibilities. As long as you are breathing, you can do more and be more. As long as you can hear that thud in your chest, you have endless opportunities waiting to be grabbed. Never give up. Never lose hope. And never lose sight of the beauty of what awaits you, as long as you never get tired of taking chances and holding on to God’s promises, you will eventually get there.
Let the waiting process be fruitful instead of painful. See the beauty in all the bumps and pauses. Remember: It’s NOT a dead end. It’s only a detour, a traffic jam or a spare tire issue. You will eventually get there, in His perfect time.
Stay in love! Stay in God’s love..
Sarah Dawn 🙂
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So long 2016! Bring it on 2017!!!
We popped the champaign, made a toast for 2016, and welcomed the new year with too much partying and merry-making. We’ve left it all behind – the pain, the failures, the dark parts of it, while we packed the fun stuff, the laughter, the successes we bagged, and fully armoured, we are marching on a new year.
We bid farewell to lost dreams, lost love, lost people. We shed every inch of connection to what was. We flipped to another page and picked up the pen with eagerness and enthusiasm in our hearts, hopeful and optimistic that this year would be better, paths brighter, and dreams bigger.
The closing of the old book and opening of the new one feels more surreal as the clock strikes twelve and as we clink our glass and greeted one another. Our hearts are burning with passion as we are given a fresh start, a clean slate, a new beginning. We feel invincible and more capable to conquer. The hype of the New Year comes with a blast like fireworks brightening up the sky.
But as the clock continues to turn so are our lives continue to move. Soon enough, party’s over. People are leaving and calling it a night. The remnants of the festivity was mopped out and thrown away and little did we know, we are back to the same messed up and depressing life that we have. And as New Year’s day draws to an end, the reality of the normal and less optimistic tomorrow looms ahead.
However, so much for all the negativity. Well, my negativity really. Like most people would want to achieve as the new year starts, all of us made new year’s resolutions we wanted to keep. I made some myself too. But this time, I keep it down to the basics. What I really wanted to share is something that I haven’t done before. I have this “Our Daily Bread” App in my phone. It has daily bible reflections and today talks about the most famous Psalm 23, God our Shepherd and He provides what we need. What struck me the most is the reflection and how a lady, wanting on becoming more thankful, made a Thanks-Living Jar. It is basically a jar with notes she made every night of the things she is thankful for the day.
I believe, more than anything else, being thankful is the attitude that we should develop this coming year. All the negativity and darkness seem to disappear when we learn to be thankful for the grace and provisions God continuous pour in our lives.
Today, I am thankful for the friendship and the bond that links us together. 2016 has been a very difficult year for me. But I wouldn’t be able to clink some glass of champagne this New Year’s Eve if not for friends and special people who have helped me keep everything together when I felt like all things are falling apart.
So what are you thankful for today? Before the first day of the 365 ends, think about it. And if you have some time, grab a pen and a paper and write it down. Put it in a jar or whatever container you want, and on the New Year’s Eve of 2018, pull them out and read all of them and surely you will realize that you are living in Thanksgiving.
If you’ll give it a try, leave a comment below.
Have a blast!
Stay in love! Stay in God’s Love!
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If the heart is the place where love comes,
Then where does it go when it dies?
Back to the heart where it comes from?
Or turn into tears in the eyes?
But even if one knew the answer
What would one possibly gain
Would the knowledge of where love has gone through
Ease the heartaches, the pain and the sorrow.
Why is it one cannot quite realize
What a blessing this true love can be
Must one love to know it it priceless?
Must one be blinded before one can see?
Ah! Where does love go when it leaves us?
This question will always remain
For we will know the answer
Until we love again.
I happened to have found this composition somewhere in my old files. I cannot recall writing it so I cannot really take credit to it. This is written in a grungy bond paper through a typewriter. I can’t imagine how old this may have been composed given the manner of how this was written. But nonetheless, this is such a beautiful poem that I can’t resist not to publish. It has made me asked myself too. Where does love go when it dies? Where does it go when it leave us? Or does love really leave and die?
I think love never leave one’s heart nor it dies. It remains (1 Cor 13:13b) forever. However, the pain, the heartache, the sorrow – they usually overpower love.And when they rule our hearts, we tend to believe that our love dies. They say there is a thin line between love and hate and one cannot exist without the other. Therefore, hate cannot exists without love and so is the latter without the previous. Bottomline: LOVE REMAINS FOREVER.
Stay in love. Stay in God’s love.
Sarah Dawn 🙂
I think you have had enough and it’s time to wake up now. You never love him anymore. You only love the things and feelings that he made you experience. You miss the feeling of being with someone who treats you special and honestly, there are other men out there who can treat you better. If he loves you, he could have fought for you. Yet he gave up on you without even trying to make things work when the relationship starts to get shaky and confusing. He left you without giving you any reasons and that alone is an obvious reason to wake up. You’ve been so down and depressed these past days and it has taken it’s toll on your body. You look horrible, to be honest. You aged and look older than your age. You have neglected your body and wallowed on the sadness of your heart. It’s time to shape up like literally!!
It’s time to move on and leave all the pains behind. It’s time to look forward to what’s ahead instead of always looking back behind you. The shadows of the past will always be shadows, a formless and non-existent mass of darkness if you choose to stay in the light. Never stay in the dark or away from the light. That will only make the shadows reappear. The past cannot be undone. It will always be there. However, you can always choose to move forward and never let these pains and hurt tie a shackle in your feet. You have the option to overcome it or empower it. Never let the latter got ahead of you. Never empower your past hurt because it will enslave you. Instead, overcome it. Show these shadows who the real master is, and it’s you. The power is all in you hands. You just have to choose it, badly want it, and to never let whatever negativities pull you down.
Girl, remember this: We are all fighting our own battles. But those who emerged winners don’t always have the best past. They are usually those who happen to have the most difficult past but have become masters of these difficulties. I’ve known you better and you can do better than this. You are a fighter. Never let these pain dull your sword. Instead, use this as an additional weapon to fight what’s ahead of you.
It’s been a year. It’s but timely to leave all these hurt behind. Be happy for him that despite all that he’s been through and done, someone still love him more than you do. You will eventually find that man who will do the same for you, who will love you and treasure you more that he has ever made you feel. And if in case that man will never come to your life, never think that he could have been him only you never gave your best shot for this relationship. You did, more than anyone could ever imagine. It’s just that he failed to see it. He failed to value all the sacrifices you gave to make the relationship work. He never saw how bad you felt for bending those principles that you have kept hidden in your heart.
Knock! Knock on your head! It’s time to let go…And the perfect time is NOW!!
And one more thing, the best revenge you can ever give him is to show him that you are better, that your life is better, that you are happy and successful without him. It’s time to do those things for yourself. Do those things that make you happy.
It is my second day in reading “The Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. Actually, this is the nth time of trying to complete the 40-day journey with this book. I always fail to finish the book even though how much I wanted to. I hope this time around, I will be able to make it to the end of the 40 days.
Anyway, I was reading the passage for Day 2 and at the end of the article, a poem by Russell Kelfer was written.
I feel like my heart was pierced and I cannot help the tears from falling down my eyes.
“God love you.”
He loves you and me more than anything He has ever created. He created us so he can express his LOVE.
“No, that trauma you faced was not easy and God wept that it hurt you so. But it was allowed to shape your heart so that into His likeness you’d grow.”
I often feel alone these past few days. Every failure, every mistake, every wrong decision seem to magnify the loneliness and emptiness in my heart. I fail to realize that God is there too. He is weeping with me as each tear fall. He felt bad for me every time I fail or make a wrong decision. But despite all the darkness I was in, God is there, constantly telling me that HE LOVES ME.
“BUT I WAS TOO STUBBORN TO REALIZE THAT.”
I was too preoccupied in making everything right and covering every bit of mistake that I fail to appreciate that He is shaping through all the pain.
God loves me. He loves us all.
Stay in love. Stay in God’s love!