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A Poem by Russell Kelfer

It is my second day in reading “The Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. Actually, this is the nth time of trying to complete the 40-day journey with this book. I always fail to finish the book even though how much I wanted to. I hope this time around, I will be able to make it to the end of the 40 days.

Anyway, I was reading the passage for Day 2 and at the end of the article, a poem by Russell Kelfer was written.

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I feel like my heart was pierced and I cannot help the tears from falling down my eyes.

“God love you.”

He loves you and me more than anything He has ever created. He created us so he can express his LOVE.

“No, that trauma you faced was not easy and God wept that it hurt you so. But it was allowed to shape your heart so that into His likeness you’d grow.”

I often feel alone these past few days. Every failure, every mistake, every wrong decision seem to magnify the loneliness and emptiness in my heart. I fail to realize that God is there too. He is weeping with me as each tear fall. He felt bad for me every time I fail or make a wrong decision. But despite all the darkness I was in, God is there, constantly telling me that HE LOVES ME.

“BUT I WAS TOO STUBBORN TO REALIZE THAT.”

I was too preoccupied in making everything right and covering every bit of mistake that I fail to appreciate that He is shaping through all the pain.

God loves me. He loves us all.

 

Stay in love. Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

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12 Insights Learned From A Broken Heart

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At some point in our lives, we go through pains of broken heart and broken relationships. In man’s pursuit for love, pain and suffering is inevitable. However, in every pain and suffering one goes through, we can always learn and gain insights that can equip us in moving forward and in trying to love again. These lessons make us stronger in facing life’s struggles and challenges.

I have my fair share of pains, human as I am. However, I am grateful for all the teachings life has given me. I hope that these insights will also inspire everyone to believe that love is just around the bend and that no failure is truly a failure, but are blessings-in-disguise and lessons in life.

1. Never love someone’s possibilities

You are the optimist. You believe that there is goodness in every one. You know that someday, he will change and you will live happily ever after. However, after one year, three years or maybe seven years, he is still the same a**h*le that he is. You get frustrated. You started to fight and little did you know, the relationship started to fail. It is going the drain or sinking in the sand. And where did it leave you? You were left broken, empty, and pained. Why? It is not because the relationship fails. It is not because you end up walking away from each other and living separate lives. The main reason is you hold on to a possibility of him – of him changing into someone you envisioned, someone you wanted him to become. You love some alter ego, unrealistic personality that you expect him to be. Loving is accepting who he is without the thought of transforming him into a perfect guy in a shining armor. Never love someone’s possibilities. You’ll end up hurt, broken, and frustrated.

2. You cannot give what you do not have

An empty well cannot give fresh water. Likewise, a person full of hurt and pain cannot give real love. Hurt and frustration will only lead to distrust and suspicions. That is the reason why, every broken person should properly heal before engaging in another relationship. You can never give love if inside your heart, all you feel is pain. Let yourself heal before you enter into a new relationship. You can never love with all your heart if it is not whole in the first place.

3. You are more than enough but sometimes others can’t see it

After every failed relationship, we often ask ourselves what went wrong or why we weren’t enough for him. I learned that being enough is so subjective. You may be lacking for him but never let that get the best in you. A person who will tell you that you’re not enough or that you’re not who they dreamed of being with is selfish because they only think of their own happiness and contentment. Anyone who told you that you’re not good, you’re not worth it, and you’re not enough for him is someone who is not completely happy with their lives. A happy and contented person will never need anyone to complete them or fulfill any function in their lives because they can survive on their own. Look for someone who wants and not needs you. If he needs you, once that need is not met or if someone is able to supply that need rather than you, he will eventually leave you.

4. Don’t sacrifice your happiness to save a relationship

If the relationship is depriving you the chance to be happy, it is a red flag. It’s time to let go. We all need to be with someone because it amplifies the happiness that we have. Once you are not happy with the relationship, you have to rethink about keeping it. We all make sacrifices when it comes to relationship. However, if it reaches the point that your own happiness is jeopardized, it’s time to re-evaluate.

Likewise, never look for happiness in a relationship. It should start from within you. You must be truly happy being single for you to be happy being in a relationship. Never seek happiness from someone else.

5. Learn when to hold on and when to let go.

Sometimes, holding on is more painful than letting go. It is like holding on to a piece of rope, the tighter your grip is, the more abraded your hands become. The friction between your hands and the rope will only create wounds or will give you calloused hands. Likewise, staying in a bad relationship will only bring you pain. It will hurt you physically and emotionally, and remember that emotional pain is very difficult to heal. Learn to let go when holding unto it becomes painful. Learn to let go before you find yourself hardened by all the pain. Save yourself and walk away. And if they are hurting you physically, I’m telling you, RUN – do not just walk away  but run away from that person.

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Day 10: Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you

Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you

In our country, the Philippines, babies are usually given two-word names. My mother named me Sarah Dawn for the sole reason that I am the youngest daughter in the Family and the youngest son is named Mark Don and she wanted our names to rhyme. But that was my mom’s take on naming me. Now let us take a look on what Google has for my name’s meaning.

For the name Sarah:

Hebrew Meaning: “The name Sarah is a Hebrew baby name. In Hebrew the meaning of the name Sarah is: Princess.

In the Bible, Sarah was the wife of Abraham and the mother of Isaac. Her name was originally Sarai (quarrelsome), but God commanded that her name be changed to Sarah before the birth of her son.

Biblical Meaning: The name Sarah is a Biblical baby name. In Biblical the meaning of the name Sarah is: Lady; Princess; Princess of the multitude.

American and Muslim Meaning: The name Sarah is a Muslim baby name.
In Muslim the meaning of the name Sarah is: Pure; Happy.”

Source: http://www.sheknows.com/babay-names/name/sarah

For the name Dawn:

Anglo-Saxon Meaning: The name Dawn is an Anglo-Saxon baby name. In Anglo-Saxon, the meaning of the name Dawn is: Awakening.

American Meaning: The name Dawn is an American baby name. In America, the meaning of the name Dawn is: Awakening.

English Meaning: The name Dawn is an English baby name. In England, the meaning of the name Dawn is: Aurora; the first appearance of daylight; daybreak.

Source: http://www.sheknows.com/babay-names/name/dawn

In summary Sarah means Lady, Princess, Princess of Multitude, or Pure, Happy while Dawn means Awakening, Aurora, daybreak, the first appearance of daylight. Looking at it I just realized that my mom named me, as translated, Princess Aurora, the Sleeping Beauty.

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Day 7: Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

foriknowtheplans_Web_1024x1024Hello there! This is Day 7 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge and I must admit, this challenge is way more difficult than what I have expected. There were times in the past seven days that I would just lie on my bed, stare at the ceiling of my room, pondering and contemplating about the topic of the day. And each topic is equally challenging and though-provoking that sometimes, well often than not, I would find myself thinking about skipping one or more of the topics. Continue reading “Day 7: Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point”

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Day 6 : Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

I would be talking more of about myself and my love life here. I am in no position to be speaking for the general populace for I am not an expert on relationships. But I would still say that our own choice plays a huge factor and has a major role in the status of our love life. More often than not, it’s the choice that we make that determine the course of our lives.

The choices we make, or rather, our ability to make choices, to decide, the freewill, freedom, among other things is a determining factor on how you want your life to be, and your love life per se. I know for myself that where I am right, and how my love life is at this very moment is part of the choices I made in the past. So it would be right to say that part of me wanted this. I mean, I have questions and what ifs and could have’s but then at that point in my life when I made that certain decision that leads me to where I am now, I would definitely say that that was what I want. Continue reading “Day 6 : Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants””

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Day 5 : The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

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The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

I think misconceptions are always present about single life or being single. There are always someone out there who plays Mr or Miss Skeptic when it comes to the topic about being single. And I cannot blame them, especially if these people are happily married or are so agitated about tying the knot. The same is also true that there are Singles out there who have misconceptions about Married Life. It is a given fact, people assume or give out unsolicited comments on something they really know nothing about. And for me, these misconceptions are but honest opinions of what they thought is something true. Continue reading “Day 5 : The biggest misconception you think people have about single life”

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Day 4:Your Biggest Fear as a Single Person

Day-4My biggest fear as a single person.

When I took this 30-day blogging challenge, I didn’t go through all the blogging topics because I wanted to be spontaneous and deal with the daily topic as it comes. And today’s topic is really pressing, something that I wanted to elude or disregard for I am still in the process of convincing everyone, myself included, that being single is okay. That I am fine with being on my own.

Well, don’t get me wrong. Being single at this point in my life is AWESOME because I own my time. That is one of the best perks of being a single and independent woman. But I am not getting any younger and soon enough, the reality would hit me. I also need to have my own family, to have my own kids. I also want to experience that feeling of being called a mother. Continue reading “Day 4:Your Biggest Fear as a Single Person”