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Day 4:Your Biggest Fear as a Single Person

Day-4My biggest fear as a single person.

When I took this 30-day blogging challenge, I didn’t go through all the blogging topics because I wanted to be spontaneous and deal with the daily topic as it comes. And today’s topic is really pressing, something that I wanted to elude or disregard for I am still in the process of convincing everyone, myself included, that being single is okay. That I am fine with being on my own.

Well, don’t get me wrong. Being single at this point in my life is AWESOME because I own my time. That is one of the best perks of being a single and independent woman. But I am not getting any younger and soon enough, the reality would hit me. I also need to have my own family, to have my own kids. I also want to experience that feeling of being called a mother. Continue reading “Day 4:Your Biggest Fear as a Single Person”

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Purity and The World

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In a world where freedom and liberty is the outcry of almost everybody, people tend to lose one’s dignity and love for one’s self because of foolish and selfish decisions. People are so liberated that casual relationships and “hook ups” are so common even among young people. People are so into this world that the sanctity of sex and marriage seem to be lost and forgotten. You could just even count with your fingers the number of your friends who are not doing “it”. Young adults tend to support living with their partners before marriage just so they will know if they are compatible or not. Divorce rates are rising, abortion became a norm, and broken families are so rampant and common. Dating has also changed with the rise of technology. Online dating has been a thing for more than a decade now and recently, with the advent of smartphones and touchscreen devices, finding a date has been as easy as swiping left or right. People change. Technology and social media dominate and pollute or rather corrupt peoples morals and dignity.

Gone were the days of the old-fashioned where men go to the women’s house to ask them if they can go on a date. Dating is never heard of these days. These days, it’s more of hanging out than dating. Love letters were obsolete because instant messages and e-cards are more convenient. I don’t even think people even pay attention to birthdates and remember by heart special dates because smartphones can take care of that. Smartphones will do all the remembering and the reminding.

In a world of fast-paced lives and modern technology, relationships became more casual. You meet, you hang out, you get to know each other, and you became a thing (often than not with casual sex or “making out” or “sleeping around” in between). Then you broke up. Winning the heart of the ladies was so easy that breaking it is never ever given second-thought. You broke up and you move on to the next relationship. Casual relationship hinders that divine purpose of matrimony. It has blocked the view of young adult to the ultimate reason for love. It has been the cause of high divorce rates, abortion, and broken families. As long as young adults adhere to the norms of this world and engage in casual relationship instead of pursuing the calling of marriage, there will always be unborn babies, unwanted pregnancies, and broken families.

As I look back on how the old-fashioned have done it before, I couldn’t help myself not to envy them. They have lived simpler, less complicated lives, away from modern technology. But they were still able to do it right. I am envious at how they value communication because of how slow communication was before, where snail-mails took weeks to receive. I am envious at how much they treat the ladies with respect and not as objects to be admired. I am envious at how the women value their virginity and purity and how much they strived to protect it. I am envious at how people of yesterday’s generation date for the sole reason of getting married and not just for casual and short-lived happiness. I am envious at how yesterday’s generation honor and value the sanctity of sex and marriage.

Today’s generation is corrupt and lustful. As what Elisabeth Elliot has said in her book Passion & Purity, “ If it feels good and you don’t do it, you’re paranoid. If it doesn’t feel good and you do it, you’re a masochist.” This mindset has corrupted today’s generation. They engage in sex just for the mere reason that it feels good. Society’s gage for being a man has change from being respectful, responsible, honorable, and trustworthy to having a record of how many women they were able to sleep with. Today’s generation uses one’s freedom and the idea of liberty to do what they believe feels good, no matter what the consequences may be. I gazed upon today’s generation with pity and with pain. They have been blinded by the alluring and deceiving greatness of this world. They were made to believe to “enjoy life to the fullest” because “you only live once”. Yes, there is nothing wrong with the idea of living our lives to the fullest because that is how God wants us to be. He wants us to be happy. But today’s generation choose to downgrade their level of living life to the fullest. They have chosen to live a life according to the standards of this world. I am saddened by the reality that the youth nowadays are so corrupted and evil. I am greatly grieved at how and where this present generation is going. And above all, I am greatly grieved because I am part of this era of corrupted and lustful generation.

At times, I tend to withdraw from the hustle and bustle of life and retreat to the silence of my room. And on those times, I sometimes find myself asking the question why am I still single? Until one day, something hit me. I will be forever restless. I will always have this longing, this deep desire inside my heart to be with someone. But I will never settle for anything lesser than what God wants me to have. Today’s generation is so lustful and corrupted that the chance for me to find a man that upholds and believes in the principle that I am living becomes lesser everyday. But I will never settle for what is available. I’ve already done that. I’ve already paid the price for being impatient. This time, I will remain single until God will lead the right man, the one He wants me to have, into my life.

Stay in love! Stay in God’s love!

Dawn 🙂

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Just Hold Me

It’s so dark and I am lost

Can You please hold my hand Lord?

It’s so dark and I feel lost

Can You embrace me my Lord?

Darkness tries to devour me

This nagging reality looming

Ahead of me

Reality so dark and trying

To envelope me. Yes! Lord, please

Help me. Please just hold me

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The Eyes Within

The beauty of the world cannot be seen through the naked eye. When we try to look at life through our human eyes, we will also see sufferings, hunger, calamity-stricken people, war, deaths, separation, among others, that are never a beauty to behold. All the negativities of life is something that we don’t want to witness. But the sad reality of life is that bad things co-exist with the good, same as sadness is felt for us to be able to appreciate what happiness is all about. 

The beauty of the world cannot be seen through our naked eyes. But rather it is felt within. It is our inner eyes, the eyes of our heart that appreciates the beauty of this life. It is our heart that chooses to be happy rather than sad, that chooses to see life as a challenge to be conquered and won instead of a suffering to be endured. God sees what our heart felt. He knows our struggles and he will surely soothe our pain. 

God bless us!
Stay in love! Stay  in God’s Love!
Dawn 🙂

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Five Ways to Master the Art of Letting Go


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I’ve been given the chance to feel love. I’ve had so much experiences, mostly hurtful, about this damn thing called LOVE. I am not perfect and definitely not a totally good person but I deserve to be happy, right? Everyone deserves to be happy. We all do. But why do we experience all these pains and heartbreak? Why do we have to cry ourselves to sleep? Why do we need to drown ourselves in music just to numb our feelings, tune out all these stupid thoughts and questions in our brain, zone out to that place of emotionlessness.

Music is my best friend and my dark room is my refuge. I really love being in the dark because no one sees me. No one sees the tears. No one knows my pain. No one hears my sob. In darkness there is solitude. But in darkness there is also loneliness. But music is there. And music keeps me company. These are the times when one song and only one song keeps on playing, on repeat. These are the times when I just want to drown myself with the music. Let the song speak for me coz I have no strength to voice out, to describe all the pains and hurts that are inside me. If only I am strong enough to leave these all behind. If only I have the strength to drop these baggages and focus on what’s ahead of me. And I know that in one way or another, we all have these stupid moments in our lives. Those moments of failed relationships and broken heart.

They say “letting go” is the best thing to do. Ideally that is the super “bestest” thing to do. But honestly? That is the most difficult thing to do. And I am no expert in this art of letting go. But let me give you some point on how to move on and get back on track because seriously, it’s your life and there’s no one but you who will decide what to do with it.

1. Realize that PAIN is all in the mind

So you are in pain. You are betrayed and cheated. He/She left you hanging in the air, like you were holding in a single-stringed balloon and suddenly POP! – the balloon burst and you came crashing to the ground. That totally hurts. But you see, there is no physical pain, the pain that you felt is all in the mind. Admit it, but its your ego that was trashed. You have thoughts like “I have done my best in this relationship” or “why is my best not enough for him” or the worst “what have done wrong?” Seriously? You are in pain right now because you keep on thinking that it was your fault. My dear, THAT PAIN is only in your mind. And the more you dwell on those thoughts about what could have gone wrong or was your best not enough, the more you pierce yourself with that knife you have in your hand. So, clear that mind and start seeing the brighter side of that break up!

2. Show some respect for yourself

You are in pain? YES. You know that pain is only in the mind? YES. But you don’t want to eat. You don’t want to get out of your room. You don’t even want to take a bath! Now that is too much. You’re already in too much emotional pain, why would you still subject yourself in more physical pain like ulcer, hang over, headache, and stink! What you have in this very difficult time of your life is yourself and YOU ought to give that self some of your respect and love. Remember, no one will love you if you don’t love yourself. But you will insist that you want to be alone, you want to disappear, that you want to die. Crap! That’s bull s#*t!! You will never be able to get your boyfriend/girlfriend back if you die. Simple! I know we need to cry over something that we lost, but doing that for more than a month is not healthy. So open that bedroom window, get a warm bath, put on your best clothes, and start living a life that you deserve.

3. Remember that Life is not just pure happiness

There is no need to expound on this. All I have to say is that, you should accept that you will never be able to experience total happiness while you are still alive. Pain, hurt, loss, being cheated, and betrayal are all part of living. So you were betrayed? Be thankful coz you are still alive. Period!

4. Learn from your past and grow

They say, good experiences make us happy while bad experiences make us strong. So you had a bad relationship. You’ve been through a very mind-blowing break up. Are you going to sulk? Are yo going to drown yourself in beer and wine? Will you let yourself stink and rot and die in your room? Think again. Everything happens for a reason. Yes, you are allowed to drink and mourn over the loss. You’ve been so down and lost but remember: THIS IS NOT THE END! As long as you are alive and you are breathing, life goes on. You may be hurt now but don’t let this stop you from living. There is so much to learn, so many places to explore, and so many fishes in the sea! So you are hurt. Fine! But you need to let it go for you to grow and become stronger and fiercer and bolder.

5. Reflect and pray

Sometimes, we feel so hurt that we question ourselves what have we done wrong. We ask ourselves why all these happen or what have we done in the past to deserve such misery. But sometimes, we couldn’t find any answer. Because honestly, there is no answer to those questions. Things happen because they ought to happen. It’s neither because you’ve done something nor this is your Karma. It is not because you have not given your best that is why your current relationship fail. We need to reflect over the past events in our lives not because we need to know where have we gone wrong but because we need to determine where God is leading us. Sometimes, relationships fail because God has better plans in our lives. Reflect on His words and let His embrace cover you in this dark moment of your life. The first four pointers will be useless if God won’t exist in our life. Pray for healing and let His love overflow in your heart.

So how can we master the art of letting go? It is by praying and believing that God’s mercy, love and grace will surely help us through the pain. Letting go will not be a piece of cake, it will never be easy. But with God, nothing is impossible. Let go and let God!

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Just Fall in Love

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Fall in love with someone
Who sees all your flaws but
Still accepts you for who you are.
Fall in love with someone
Who would rather hug you than kiss you
Coz he values the importance and essence
Of a kiss.
Fall in love with someone
Who is afraid to let go of your hand.
Fall in love with someone
Who treats his mom as a queen
And his sisters like princesses.
Fall in love with someone
Whom you can’t live without.
Fall in love with someone
Whom you can trust and respect.
Fall in love with someone
Whom you can see your future with
Fall in love with someone
Who makes you spontaneous
Whom you can talk without hesitation
And who can make you laugh with even
The most stupid jokes.
Fall in love with someone
Who respects you and your personal plans
But is still willing to compromise
And meet half way just to build
Future plans with you.
Above all,
Fall in love with someone
Who loves God more that he loves you.

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